The Good Girl Resistance!
Embracing Your Inner Power: The 'Good Girl' Resistance
Today, we delve into a liberating conversation about the transformative journey of embracing one's dominant energy while simultaneously confronting the internal and societal pressures that often hold us back. This journey, I like to call ‘The Good Girl Resistance,' highlights the importance of self-awareness and grounding in self-love to truly claim and embody our personal power. It is with these elements weaved through my Professional Dominatrix Training that make my programmes so enriching and all levels both professional and personal.
Understanding the Resistance
From a young age, many of us learn to play small, conform to societal expectations, and prioritise others’ desires over our own. Whether it’s through people-pleasing or diminishing our presence, these learned behaviours shape the barriers we encounter as we step into roles of greater expression and authority. This resistance manifests both internally and externally, requiring us to utilise elements of self-work and reflection. It is by creating awareness around these barriers that we van begin to break through them to claim our true and authentic expression.
The Story of Yes and No
Reflecting on how we communicate our needs, let me share a personal anecdote about saying "no" when I really meant "yes." When I was a young child I was taught that to “take too much” was impolite and ‘greedy’, thus when being a guest in someones house and upon being offered a drink or snack I would politely accept the first offering but ALWAYS politely refuse any further offers, no matter what my true desire was around it. This learned behaviour followed me into adult life, where when offered a drink or food at a friends house, I would find myself refusing the offer despite my hunger or thirst!
Such experiences, though small, represent broader patterns of communication and desires that we often ignore or suppress. Through these stories, we understand that acknowledging our true desires can lead to profound personal transformation and empowerment.
Five Steps to Accessing True Desires
I believe the path to accessing your desires to be a five step process:
Discernment: Begin by genuinely exploring your desires without external influences, asking yourself what you truly want.
Claiming: Internally acknowledge and own your desires, stating them out loud to yourself, writing them down or internally processing them.
Communication: Choose to share these desires with the world and manifest them through conversation and action.
Receiving: Embrace your worthiness to receive what you’ve asked for, recognizing the importance of allowing others to fulfill your needs.
Celebration: Delight in the process and achievements of communicating and receiving your desires, basking in the joy of having expressed and acted upon your truth.
This journey of overcoming 'good girl' resistance invites you to step into authenticity and claim the life you deserve. Practice, reflection, and imagination are your tools in reconstructing a foundation of self-worth and power. As you explore these concepts, remember to nurture and celebrate the dominance within you, discovering who you truly are beneath societal expectations.
If you are ready to step into your dominance and claim your Queendom check out my Dominatrix Training and 121 Mentorship and Coaching.
